Yearly Archives: 2020

The 4th Horseman of Relapse – Stonewalling By Clay Hightower, LMSW

The 4th Horseman of Relapse – StonewallingBy Clay Hightower, LMSW“If I do not think about it, maybe it will get better.”If you have had a thought like this about a problem before, no matter how big or small, you have engaged in a form of stonewalling. That does not mean that you committed a grave [...]

3rd Horseman of Relapse – Contempt

This is my third installment in the Four Horsemen and Relapse series! If you have missed them, go check out my introduction to the series and the first two pieces already posted on the page! How many times have you used the phrase “I would never do that to you” in an argument with your [...]

2nd Horseman of Relapse – Defensiveness – by Clay Hightower, LMSW

ou missed my previous posts on the Four Horsemen and Relapse, check out my two previous posts on Addiction Recovery Intensive and Moore Institute Facebook page. During conflicts, I will often ask my couples counseling clients the question “Would you like to feel correct, or would you like to feel happy?” They frequently respond with [...]

By |2020-10-22T07:16:33+00:00October 12th, 2020|Addiction Research, Addiction Treatment|0 Comments

1st Horseman – Criticism by Clay Hightower, LMSW

(Note: I will attempt to use real personal examples of each communication behavior when discussing inner talk as well as interpersonal communication. I want this to be as practical as possible when discussing intervention, but I also want to destigmatize these behavior patterns and encourage proactive change rather than responding to crises out of fear [...]

By |2020-10-22T07:16:33+00:00October 12th, 2020|Uncategorized|0 Comments

The Four Horsemen and Relapse

written by Clay Hightower, LMSW From the moment that one makes the commitment to stop ingesting a mood-altering substance or engaging in a process addiction, they are at risk of relapse. Without proper planning, one is potentially one stressful event, unforeseen challenge, or fixed false belief away from the voice convincing them that they cannot [...]

By |2020-10-22T07:16:33+00:00September 22nd, 2020|Uncategorized|0 Comments
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